About me

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Cancer treatment was a doddle.

With confidence in my surgeon, I didn’t see why I should worry.
But little did I know what would eventually happen

Or how I would find medical professionals had changed since I was a teenage;  I spent a year in hospital after catching Polio and told I would never walk again. I was determined I WAS going to walk Everyone at Stanmore Orthopaedic Hospital helped me with my ambition to get back on my feet, and I walked out of there.

But, I wasn’t prepared for the attitude I encountered when side effects from cancer treatment kicked after I was put on the hormonal drug, Tamoxifen.

  • I woke up blind in one eye (limited sight eventually came back)
  • came out with bloody peeling skin and blisters all over
  • I was changed to Aromasin, then Arimidex, and more side effects – even nastier.
  • and years later late effects still crop up – no-one warned me this could happen

I expected to work WITH the team looking after me, but when I asked my Oncologist what I could do, I was shocked to be told “well, you are alive“.  He didn’t know what treatment would  help.  No “try this” or any other suggestions.

This defeatist attitude seems to have permeated today’s NHS, but would never have been allowed by Sister at Stanmore.  The once-superb NHS iservice seems to have crumbled, so I  becomes dependent on the Internet to find out what other countries are doing. and copy,

World Health Organisation

This globallly-respectd organisation is the Public Health arm of the United Nations; it consistenrly places the UK way down in cancer survival rates.

So, determined to overcome the often-frightening long term side effects from cancer treatment, I set up this website to tell others what I found worked for me.

BUT –  I am NOT medically qualified.
  1. What I write about are treatments I have learned about, carried out in hospitals or medical centres in other countries with better post-cancer survival rates than in UK.
  2. Products that have been approved by authorities such as cancer societies in other countries – many have undergone Clinical trials.
  3. Or what has been recommended to me by a medical profession.  By helpful doctors and nurses in Britain and other countries.
Macmillan’s report:  Cured – but at what cost? says about 25% of those being treated for cancer will need on-going treatment.  But no mention of what they are doing to ensure that the NHS acknowledges our problems, or lobbies for improvement in our care.

In Britain, we have the research organisation CANCER RESEARCH UK (CRUK). 

This is research organisation is highly-respected all over the world, and known as one of best.

Sadly, scientists and medical professionals will tell you that the chains of communication out from CRUK fall down, and we in UK don’t get the benefits we should.  Add to this the arrogance exhibited by medics, and our treatment is woefully lacking.

So I hope that this website will help you realise you are not being demanding if you think there are things you can do to handle long-term side effects.

You can take charge – be prepared to ask questions

Doctors admit they HATE Patients such as us – but also admit those of us who ask questions and demand better treatment LIVE LONGER.
About me – Page 2

Luckily I knew Revd, David Brown, Chaplain at the Royal Marsden hospital.  He reassured me that I was not alone;Verite3 he heard the same comments from other patients who had same problems with side effects from drugs.

When I told him doctors had said that problems were “due to my age”, etc, he said this was nonsense, and to go to France.  He recommended cancer centres there, where I was dealt with as a patient who presented with normal side effects which they were trained to deal with.

David had been on the Ethical Committee which approved Tamoxifen, so had all the statistics about how many suffered from side effects.  He had been well-known in the cancer field, and often invited to speak at conferences, so was a wonderful source of information on what was happening abroad.  I was very lucky to know him.

I started this website to tell others about treatments one can access in European  and other hospitals – and how to copy these.  I wanted to give back some of the marvelous care and attention I found – NOT give up!

I am sure our woeful survival statistics would improve if NHS doctors copied some of the treatment available to cancer patients in Europe – giving us the clinically-trialled products and treatments that are offered there to help with side effects.  And I wasn’t once put on expenive drugs or pills, but was treated with common-sense;  which can be copied anywhere.

This website features what helped me,  and how we can access what is provided in other countries.  And as the products are often lovely skincare creams, and massage, this website had to be called HAVING FUN AFTER CANCER.

However, with all the cuts that are being foisted on the British NHS, I have started to write practical advice about how WE can ensure we get better care.  In Britain medics are often too busy dealing with the basic disease, and have no time to help once you are off the treatment conveyor belt. It seems incredible in this day and age, but however intelligent and feisty you try to be, when faced with a doctor who denies that horrendous side effects you are experiencing are due to the drugs, you can feel you are going mad!

Instead, in a nasty about-face, the NHS tries to blame poor cancer survival rates on us – saying it is OUR fault that survival rates are worse than Europe, because we don’t take up screening and tests when we should.

  • But in Dec. 2009 came word from the WHO (World Health Organisation) that we ARE doing what we should.
  • We are taking up screening and having tests done – in fact WHO say we are one of most responsible nations in Europe.
  • BUT … we still have one of worst post-cancer survival rates.

MY THEORY?  I have been treated in other countries, and know that doctors in France, Germany etc., spend time working on drug side effects; treating side effects helps their patients stay on these drugs. 

In complete contrast to how I was treated in Britain. 

So I am convinced that one reason why we have poor post-cancer survival rates is because we find it difficult to have side effects treated, and aren’t helped to stay on hormonal drugs.

The NHS is constantly promising “Holistic treatment”;  “Recovery programmes” ; “Treatment for long-term conditions” and other pious promises.  But it is what Churchill called Jaw Jaw – you can’t access this – sorry.It’s all pie in the sky, but helpfully we should get this by 2025 !!!!!!!

What is even more worrying is that with so many powerful drugs  being prescribed, doctors have little or no training in dealing with the side effects. Hence over 60% of us come off the drugs prescribed for us (according to NHS surveys),  because we can’t handle these.

Action Plan for everyone

Don’t weep!  

Doctors admit that those of us who ask questions and demand better treatment survive longer.

It’s not difficult, with so many excellent internet sites (don’t believe doctors who try and pooh pooh them – many sites are set up by the world’s top cancer hospitals in the US), and those products that you are prescribed in France and US can now be bought in British pharmacies.  Many are mentioned in the different categories on HAVING FUN AFTER CANCER.

Breast Cancer Care say 74% of us look for information on the web, and many solutions are there – so get browsing!

But you MUST help yourself, and learn to be assertive when you don’t get what you know you need.  We get the NHS we deserve as so many of us ‘don’t like to complain’.  Well, it is our LIFE;  our NHS, we pay for it – so make sure it gives you what you are entitled to.

Necessities rather than luxuries As I looked for help, I found out that old therapies such as massage were incredibly helpful. At Paul’s Cancer Support Centre in London they told me, “it is important to emphasise that, while services like massage and reflexology may seem like luxuries for people who are well, they are actually critical in reducing distress and increasing wellbeing for people with cancer”.

In France and Germany massage is frequently prescribed for the years patients are on hormonal drugs.

So – I was able to take advantage of some treatment in Europe, and this website gives information about what I found, the clinically-trialled products I was prescribed, and how and where we can get these in Britain. Good luck – follow me – HAVE FUN!

Prof. Sir Magdi Yakoub has said, ‘We in the medical profession…have to listen more to our patients”.

But how can a doctor have time to listen when you are scheduled for a ten minute appointment?


11 thoughts on “About me

  1. sylvie June 1, 2010 at 1:34 pm Reply

    Hello Verite
    your name in French means truth as you probably know it. I also had a cancer journey, not for breast cancer but for lymphoma and I am just finishing chemo. I happen to be French and a doctor who has worked for the NHS for the last 9 years after my husband was transferred in London. I couldn’t agree more with your comments about doctors listening. I had various side effects during my chemo and almost every time was dismissed as it wasn’t life threatening. Serious infections would have been dealt with but various pains, loss of voice or other “unusual” effects were qualified as either not bothersome or impossible to have (was I faking it? you don’t get pain in your chemo arm that wakes you up just for the fun of it!). I was lucky because as a doctor I was able to monitor myself most of the time and to search the internet for information. I came across most of the help you mention, acupuncture, massage, diet and they helped me tremendously. I do not live far from a Maggie centre and they were great but what about those afraid to ask, too tired to move or unaware. Where do they find the support?
    By the way, I like your enthusiasm about the French medical care but we also have our non listeners.
    Thanks for all the info on your website, I wish I had found it when I started my journey, it would have saved me time.

    • Verite Reily Collins June 2, 2010 at 10:50 am Reply

      Sylvie, Thank you for writing, which I take as a great compliment. As you say, what about those afraid to ask – I fear that many of those just get discouraged, and eventually fade away. The statistic that 60% of UK patients come off hormonal drugs because of side effects shocks me – but doesn’t seem to worry the doctors! But they are one of the reasons why I started the web site, to try and reach out to them and say there ARE solutions.
      As you say, I know that the French system isn’t all roses, but overall I am very impressed. I did find one person who complained bitterly though. He had had to wait six hours in A & E to be seen when he broke his leg. Afterwards his wife told me (and you will understand this) he broke it on August 1st!
      Do go and see the latest story I have posted on NHS Watch – re doctor-speak ! http://www.after-cancer.com/NHS-watch. Best wishes, and if OK with you I will put you on my list to let you know when I have more stories up. Verite.

  2. Jacqui Burke January 14, 2011 at 10:20 am Reply

    Yet another really sensible blog Verity. Thank you for the trouble you take helping us to understand what the government is proposing and raising such important issues. I have tweeted a link to your blog to all my followers on Twitter. Many thanks. Jacqui

    • Verite Reily Collins January 14, 2011 at 4:26 pm Reply

      Thank you. You have no idea what pleasure this comment gives me, as I sit here wondering if I am the only one who doesn’t think politicians have brilliant ideas! I am sure they are very well-meaning people – but somehow they do seem to lose touch with reality once they are surrounded by all their hangers-on in the Whitehall corridors!

  3. Jane Rubinstein February 18, 2011 at 5:18 pm Reply

    If any of your readers might be interested in how the genetic variant found in recent research to be associated with Breast Density on Mammograms is related to the individual data in Health and Traits reports provided to personal genomic customers of 23andMe, please feel free to provide this link or reprint this SNPwatch.
    Jane Rubinstein


    SNPwatch: Researchers Identify Variant Associated with Breast Density
    Published by GeoffB at 10:06 am under SNPwatch

    Mammography is a common imaging method used to screen for breast cancer, the second most common cancer in women. The result of a mammogram is a simple black and white image of the tissues that make up the breast. But even an image displaying apparently healthy breast tissue may still show signs that could be useful in assessing risk for breast cancer. It turns out that density — the proportion of dense (white) areas that appear on a mammogram — matters. In the last decade, research has revealed that women with high mammographic density (>75% dense tissue on a mammogram) have four to five times higher risk for breast cancer.
    Characteristics such as age and BMI can affect mammographic density, but it’s estimated that over 60% of the variability in mammographic density is due to genetic factors. In an effort to identify these genetic factors, a multi-national team of researchers searched for genetic variants linked to this trait in 7,712 European women with known breast density. In results published recently in Nature Genetics, the researchers identified a variant in a gene called ZNF365 that is correlated with breast density. They found that each copy of an A at rs10995190 was associated with a 2% decrease in mammographic density. The researchers also found that each copy of an A at rs10995190 is also associated with slightly lower odds of developing breast cancer. This association of rs10995190 with breast cancer replicated a similar result found by another research group in 2010.
    (23andMe customers can view their results for mammographic breast density in their Breast Cancer Risk Modifiers report, or check their data for rs10995190 using the Browse Raw Data feature.)
    While the authors state that the effects of rs10995190 may only account for a fraction of the of the variability in mammographic density, they note that this seemingly small decrease in density is also associated with a meaningful decrease in breast cancer risk. Although the data from this study suggests that genetic variation in ZNF365 could be affecting breast cancer risk by influencing mammographic density, further research is required to confirm this finding and to determine the other genetic factors that are involved.
    SNPwatch gives you the latest news about research linking various traits and conditions to individual genetic variations. These studies are exciting because they offer a glimpse into how genetics may affect our bodies and health; but in most cases, more work is needed before this research can provide information of value to individuals. For that reason it is important to remember that like all information we provide, the studies we describe in SNPwatch are for research and educational purposes only. SNPwatch is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice; you should always seek the advice of your physician or other appropriate healthcare professional with any questions you may have regarding diagnosis, cure, treatment or prevention of any disease or other medical condition.
    Tags: breast cancer, mammography, screening

  4. Andrey Bogdan December 18, 2011 at 8:04 pm Reply

    Hello Verite,

    In Russian your name means believe. And I am believing in you. I agree with you about the side effects of Tamoxifen. Moreover, most medicines have a huge set of side effects.

    If we are consumers of this medicines and if we have no side effects from them, who will buy other medicines?

    I wanted to ask about chemotherapy, but rather about the people of pension age, what do you think pensioners are they needed for State?

    Do that side effects of chemotherapy kills most people before the cancer?

    Who from the doctors are really trying to solve the problem of side effects of the medicines that is prescribed by them?

    Are there exist medicines that can eliminate these side effects?

    Are there medicines that can protect healthy cells from damage by toxins?

    If exist medicine that is able to keep protective immune function at a high level during and after chemotherapy?

    Is there a medication that is capable to destroy only the tumor (mutated) cells, reduce intoxication, which have no side effects?

    How it can be possible to eliminate intoxication for the patients with cancer?

    With great respect and gratitude, Andrey Bogdan

  5. Joey Burdick January 26, 2012 at 12:36 am Reply

    Thank you ever so for you article.Really looking forward to read more. Fantastic.

  6. Adeline Reid May 13, 2012 at 3:21 pm Reply

    Thank you so much for all the information I receive from you .our cancer support Group of 40 members appreciate the knowledge .
    You look wonderful with the make over at Harrods and the wig is superb

  7. simone September 28, 2012 at 3:53 pm Reply

    dear Verite,
    I have come across your amazing website as i was looking for some intervention group in the area of kensington and chelsea where i could pilot a prevention program on osteoporosis. As part on my 3rd year bachelor degree in nutrition, i would like to develop a pilot program which would inform young girls of the borough about the importance of building strong bones through healthy eating and exercice.
    I live in the area and i have a strong interest in the disease as my mother died a few years ago in France,following hip fracture and many years of agonising pain. My GP in London was not very supportive in my request on how to prevent the disease from developing later in life. I believe prevention is key in reducing NHS ever rising cost of an ageing population. I would be very grateful if you could help in this project just by giving me some advise? Simone Faby

  8. Freda E Ingall June 26, 2015 at 4:12 pm Reply

    Dear Verite ,
    The last 5 months have been a hectic time ,when our focus has been on members of our family and members of our group who are like close family to us. I have just got round to reading your Blog . What a very Challenging time you have had but your courage and strength has kept you focused . I know you are a great inspiration to may people.
    Best wishes for your continue work and success.
    ken and Freda Ingall Nottingham

    • veriterc June 28, 2015 at 5:46 am Reply

      Thank you for lovely comments – but I just reflect what so many of us experience. They never tell you what to do if things go wrong – which I think they should!

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